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“The human desire for a better world is eternal and unshakeable and it does not reside solely within the United States and is not possessed by any group, regardless of how much power or wealth they enjoy.”—

(Wow) —is something probably my close friend, Lola, whose parents emigrated from Mexico can heartily embrace too. She loves every American holiday with zeal- maybe her parents taught her how to do that.

She’s asking me to come over for a barbecue & to watch the Macy’s fireworks today. She’s got sparklers too!

I just don’t have it in me.

But I can blame the heat.

I’m finding it hard to feel any affection or connection to this country anymore. The blatant brutality - the quiet violence of ripping away peoples’ rights - the ugly spectacles-

But then if I do some archeological digs- I can find the good things that my family received and all the people who came through - and actual miracles - (like not dying in childbirth back in the 1980s). Can look at any single day and the list of people who came through - the mailman, the delivery guy, the woman picking up trash in the park, the driver who stopped at the red light and didn’t run me over as I was crossing. The Haitian-American hospice health aide who sat with my husband and listened to his stories as he was dying of cancer.

The personal is more manageable—but that’s the personal in the political too. And if I can practice noticing the “ordinary” people who make things work, I can wheel myself around and maybe have the kind of gratitude that Lola’s parents taught her to have.

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